The Mirror Hides True Faces
I have always taught children’s church. I have never taught women or even been involved in the women’s ministry. I have not been to Sunday School in over a decade, and I felt pretty good about it. It totally makes perfect sense that I just started teaching Sunday school in a women’s class. (God can be full of surprises can’t He?) I was nervous of course. I got the message “do what you know,” so I gave 10 grown women an object lesson with a small hand held mirror. With shaky hands I delivered my lesson but as we all begin to share, (because you know, us women love to share) God taught me another lesson entirely. It went down something like this.
In this lesson I’m going to expose a hairdresser’s secret.
I work in front of the mirror all day long. On good hair days and bad hair days, good moods and bad moods, cute outfits and “just ain’t feeling it” outfits, I have to stand in front of the mirror. Hair dressers get use to being in front front of the mirror all the time, clients on the other hand are not so use to it. Any hairdresser knows the three types of personalities that sit in our chair and face the mirror. It may not be verbalized but it is known.
Personality 1 sits down in the chair in front of the mirror. They want to check themselves out but they are kinda embarrassed about it. They take short quick glances, because to stare at themselves would be rude. “I want to see myself, but I don’t want to see myself seeing myself.” It makes perfect sense.
Personality 2 sits down in the chair in front of the mirror. They just can’t keep their eyes off themselves. They watch themselves talk and toss their hair. They are 100% in the mirror zone, and it may appear that they are liking what they are seeing.
Personality 3 sits in the chair in front of the mirror. Their head hangs low. The mirror is completely blocked from their mind. Considering it’s very existence is out of the question. The mirror is not, under any circumstances, an option. They will not, NOT, look into the mirror. “What mirror? I don’t see a mirror.”
It is my belief, that all three reactions to the beauty shop mirror come from the exact same place in the heart, even though they appear very different from the outside. All women deal with insecurity regardless of what you see. The mirror lies. For many reasons, we as women have turned to our looks, weight, finances, jobs, the acceptance of others…..(the list is long) to feel secure. Personality 2 may appear to have much more confidence than number 1 and 3, but as they watch their own reflection, they are measuring themselves up to see if they are good enough. I am a number 2. (I am trying hard to refrain from a doo-doo joke.) We are good at faking it. I could go on and on about what a number 2 is thinking. “How is my makeup? I’m gonna have to watch and make sure this haircut is just like Halle Berry’s. I wish I looked like Halle Berry. I wish I had hair like the lady in that other chair. Oh my gosh I have a bunch of wrinkles. I’m never tanning again. Gosh I look pale. I’m getting in the tanning bed after I leave here.” We may appear confident but the truth is number 2’s keep a tight looking ship so folks will think we got it all together. Insecurity is a black hole in every women’s heart that can only be filled with Jesus.
Flash to Sunday school class. During the drive from Rockmart to Hiram that morning, I reminded myself of my lack of qualification and discipline and dreaded everything about this women’s Sunday school teacher gig. I shared my insecurity along with my lesson about insecurity, in the candle fragrant, decorated trailer full of beautiful women, who were nothing but encouraging and accepting. As we all began to talk I realized I had heaped a bunch of pressure on myself, all by myself. I had not experienced these feeling before when I was teaching children. I felt that I didn’t have to prove anything with the kids. I could just be myself. The pressure wasn’t there. Children are accepting. How dare I hold a different standard with the ladies in our class!!!! They are my friends! I have a conclusion and it’s important enough for caps locked, so get ready. WOMEN ARE NOT HARD ON ONE ANOTHER. WOMEN ARE HARD ON THEMSELVES. We try to fill that black hole of insecurity with comparison, and ladies, it ain’t pretty. Plus it is super exhausting. Get them bud nippers out girls.
The next time you sit in the chair in front of the mirror, look into that joker with peace, knowing that Ephesians 1:1-6 tells us we are accepted! 2 Timothy 1:7 says we are fearless! Phillipians 4:6 says we are anxiety free! Psalms 73:26 says we are strong! Colossians 3:12 says we are chosen, holy and dearly loved! Let that sink in. Colossians 1:14 says we are redeemed and forgiven! Romans 8:28 says we are more than conquerers, called and justified through Jesus Christ. That means when are more than victors. Being more than victorious is as good as it gets. Ladies, this is what matters. This is where our security is. The bible is slap full of security. Hey, I didn’t say God did.